When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. – Lao Tzu
Transition is an internal process that informs us that it’s time to move on, that we’re ready to leave behind old behaviors and patterns. This ability to let go strongly suggests that we’re in control over what happens to us as opposed to just letting things happen. What we leave behind may be an old identity or status, if we’re talking about social change, or perhaps an outdated part of our self that is no longer in sync with our developing personality and emerging persona, if we’re talking about psychological change.
As part of the process through transition, we leave behind a part of ourselves — who we thought we were up until the change. In essence, we die to something in order to be born to something new. Before we can find and anchor ourselves to something new, though, we may have to go through a period of not knowing. We may know we’re moving in the right direction but we don’t know yet where we’re going.
In this transitional place, we have the opportunity to turn back, but not to return, to view what once was with a perspective altered by time and distance; we can see all that was for what it is, rather than for what we wished it had been. Each re-view broadens our perspective on our life; the cumulative effect of this is learned wisdom.
Transitions are not just meant to be endured, but rather to be welcomed and embraced with anticipation and excitement for the potentials they tap into and for the unlimited possibilities they make available to us.
One of my chief missions in life is to help people make better transitions. I hope my books help you do that.